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Freaky Friday: I’m trying to understand my daughter’s world, yet still be the mom she needs me to be.

My favorite movie, at the moment, is Freaky Friday. It ALWAYS makes me cry! My daughter caught me tonight, with tear-filled eyes, and laughed with sheer delight (ridicule?) at my tears. I didn’t mind because she had the kind of grin on her face that said she knew the reason I was crying is because I love her so much. I mean, who else would like that movie so much, except for a teen daughter or the mother of a teen daughter?

The story is about a mother and daughter who have grown apart a little and don’t understand each other’s lives or struggles. By Chinese fortune cookie magic, their bodies are switched until they can demonstrate compassion for each other. Ridiculous, impossible and unbiblical…but any mother of a daughter can easily relate to this movie. Perhaps because the storyline is so unbelieveable, it is easy to accept the premise.

I start crying right from the very first chord struck in the opener. The movie opens to the song Happy Together by the Turtles and as the tune plays, famous classical paintings of mother and child slowly move across the screen. That opener gets to me every single time! If I walked into Costco and this movie started playing on all those cool big-screen TVs, I’d start bawling right there. In fact, if I even just think about the opening scenes of the movie, I could make myself start crying. I don’t know how to link to the paintings, but here are the words to enjoy and contemplate.


Imagine me and you, I do
I think about you day and night, it’s only right
To think about the girl you love and hold her tight
So happy together

If I should call you up, invest a dime
And you say you belong to me and ease my mind
Imagine how the world could be, so very fine
So happy together

I can’t see me lovin’ nobody but you
For all my life
When you’re with me, baby the skies’ll be blue
For all my life

Me and you and you and me
No matter how they toss the dice, it has to be
The only one for me is you, and you for me
So happy together

http://www.theturtles.com/songs/happy.html

I will probably add to this post, as I usually do. I have no fear of editors…I seem to edit my own posts every time I re-read them. Is that normal?

Reply to a friend

Dear Suzi,

Thanks for the blog jog (like a memory jog, I guess). I’ve been stuck since Sunday with thinking of something interesting to write about. Your post today (click on the above article title or cut and paste this - http://swansmith.blogspot.com/2004/06/fear-factor-this-morning-i-am-afraid.html) has got my wheels turning.

I’ve got news for you: No need to start a home Bible study for teens. You are already conducting a teen home Bible study! You have lots of teen boys coming over to your house very frequently. I know they feel very welcome at your home because I’ve seen them. They aren’t going to someone else’s house; they are coming to your house. I’ve seen my own daughter’s reaction to your home; it is a warm and inviting place that she loves to visit. She also loves to spend time with you and senses Christian love from you.

You and Tim live your Christian lives openly and your home prominently displays Christian messages. You have an inviting study area, a fun family room and welcoming dining area that is attractive. You provide food to whomever wants it and make each teen feel welcome. Kids see you openly reading the Bible and listening to music with a Christian message. It is very clear to visitors that this is a Christian home and the people who live there love God. They may not say anything, but they aren’t blind; they notice everything I’ve just listed. Those teen visitors will remember your home and example for years to come.

I know what you mean, though. You are thinking of a more formal Bible study with kids sitting with their Bibles open and maybe pens and paper. But I think the Bible is already open (you and Tim) and the pen and paper is their young minds. I’m not saying you shouldn’t pursue your idea. I just think that you’ve already got a bible study going on; consider tweaking things within the format you’ve already got to keep it natural and attractive to the kids.

Also, consider inviting a trained pastor in to offer a bible study in your home, so that you don’t blur how the kids view you. I think you already hold a powerful position as a Christian mom and dad; don’t try to be the pastor, too. Just an idea to consider.

I’m also talking to myself in this reply, because I have a similar situation with my own kids’s friends. Rob is finishing up our basement right now and one of his goals is to create a place for our kids to have friends over. You have challenged me to consider the impression our family makes on our own visitors, especially now that my youngest will soon be a teen. Keep up the good work.

When parenting starts to feel overwhelming, I remember my pastor’s reminder to me: “In Rev. 14:13 it mentions that we will rest from our labors and our “works” will follow us when we go to heaven. What can we take with us from this earth -PEOPLE, especially the ones the Lord’s entrusted to us in our homes.”

Revalations 14:13: Then I heard a voice from heaven say, “Write: Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on.” “Yes,” says the Spirit, “they will rest from their labor, for their deeds will follow them.”

Happy Father’s Day

I don’t know how many fathers of daughters are reading this post, but I think there are a couple. I have a nice story to share. Yesterday, I was driving my daughter and her friend somewhere. They were discussing boys, as they do nearly every day. I asked them to make a quick verbal list of the qualities they liked in the boys they currently have interest in.

After each one took their turn, I asked them if they know why they they like boys with those qualities. Without much hestitation, my daughter said, “Because that is what Dad is like!”. Her friend agreed. Now, if I had said that girls are attracted to boys with qualities similar to their fathers, those girls would have immediately discounted my opinion. For them to state this fact on their own made me really happy. They have learned one of life’s truths and made it their own. My hope is that they will be comforted by the fact that there is someone special waiting for these two special girls. That special boy might not be the person they currently like or even someone they have met, but he will seem familiar to my daughter or her friend when they do meet because he will have those special qualities they listed to me yesterday.

So, I wish a very Happy Father’s Day to all the men out there who are funny, cute, athletic, competitive, want God in their lives,, have an awesome smile and sparkling eyes, have muscles, make their daughters feel special and make them laugh, take an interest in their daughters and are taller than their daughters! That is the list to the best of my recollection!

Little red prayer book

I found a wonderful prayer in a little red book called “Teenagers Pray”. The book of prayers was written in 1955 and I am both comforted and astonished that the prayer was written in 1955; it could have been written by a teen in today’s world and still be relevant. I shared it with Kris this morning and she liked it, too. I had been having a discussion with her about sensing God’s presence in her life each minute, each hour, each day. Maybe I am pushing her because that sense really didn’t come to me until I was 19 1/2 years old, after some tough times and a renewal of faith. I so deeply pray for her to sense God’s presence in her life much earlier than I did, but how do you make that happen for someone else? You can’t, right? During our conversation, I realized I was making it sound like it is something she must try to do or feel. So instead, I told her that it is something to remind yourself about and pray about. Then I found this little prayer which seemed to fit our discussion perfectly:

Lord, God, I am not always thankful enough that I am a Christian. When I stop to think of all the blessings that come to me because I believe in You, I can only say that Your love for me is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. Make me properly thankful for Your love, and let me never fail to be happy about it.

Help me to find real joy in worshipping You in church. Help me to sing the truths of the wonderful hymns with my heart as well as with my lips. What I hear with my ear, send down deep into my heart. Let the joy of belonging to Jesus show itself in my words and actions, and make me a blessing to my family and friends.

Help me also to share my joy of salvation with others. So many people are discouraged and disappointed over both little and large matters. Help me to say and do the right thing at the right time, that my friends may also find their happiness in Jesus on this earth and joy with Him in heaven. Bless me in this for Jesus’ sake. Amen.

Maybe sensing is totally the wrong word. Maybe it is just believing in God, pure and simple. Just faith.

Summer - the season of too little sleep

My husband is a teacher and my children are students, so all three of them look forward to having their summers free of school and free of school’s confining schedule. My husband works hard in the summers, either on our house or on friends’ houses, fixing, updating or creating. He gets to set his own hours and if he wants to stay up until 2am watching a great movie, he can do that. Who am I to deny him, since he’s the one who wakes us both up at 5:50am for nine months of the year?

My kids also look forward to summers so that they can stay up later - usually watching the TV shows they miss during the school year or, lately, using the computer to surf the web, chat with friends or play games. I’ve even caught my daughter on the phone at 11pm or later! I tell her that it is my opinion that it is impolite to ever call anyone past 9pm, unless it is an absolute emergency (again showing my victorian values or living in the 1900’s as Kris says). She says, “Why doesn’t it matter? My friend is up late, too!” Yes, the rest of the world lives in modern times and my kids are stuck with a mother from the 1900’s. (I think this post is turning into a different topic. Back to the post topic.) Anyway, my kids are trying to enjoy all those things that are limited during the school, either by me, school work or sports.

So where does that leave me? Very, very tired! I’ve always been the kind of mom who can’t fall asleep until my kids are asleep. Yes, I’m a control freak according to some people’s definitions. But they didn’t have my kids or know what my kids might do if mom fell asleep first. I look forward to the summers because of the longer days of sunshine, getting up when everyone else is asleep to enjoy my coffee, watch the news, water the garden, etc. That is hard to do if I don’t fall asleep until 12 or 1am.

My son is more difficult about getting to bed than my daughter. Some days I have built-in controls, like summer school classes, a 6am golf tee time or a morning hockey session, but the rest of the days I’m on my own. If I ask him to get to bed by 10pm, I often get the look - the sad, disappointed, dejected look of a kid who waited all year to stay up later in the summer and now I’m ruining his plans. I’m not controlled by the look, but I try to be reasonable. I want him to know that I’m flexible on some things, especially since I am not flexible about other things. He is good about getting to bed on Saturday night and getting up for church, so I do try to be reasonable on other nights.

Each summer, when the tiredness sets in and I start to complain about the unfair household sleep schedule, he’ll apologize and promise to get to bed earlier. Actually, that means that he’ll wait until I fall asleep to turn on the television. Or he will say, “Well, if you hadn’t quit teaching, you could live like us.” But I’m happy in the business world, being able to take a lunch or day off when I want to without ordering a sub, creating lesson plans and worrying about abandoning my class. Still, I do miss having a carefree summer. I dream about what it would be like…we could all go to work at a camp or travel for a month. That would be nice, but those things would only work if there was no television or computer to keep my husband and kids up late. I think I’d have the same battle no matter what job I had. In the meantime, I spend the mornings running down the office hall due to the jumbo (homemade)iced coffee with cream I need/enjoy each morning. At least I’m getting some exercise!

Hymns I love to hear and sing - Jerusalem

I was recently pondering why I enjoy hearing and singing traditional hymns. Even back when I considered myself a combination of an Evangelical and Lutheran Christian, I still had a great appreciation for old hymns. I believe that is one reason why it was easy for me to make the switch to a Confessional Lutheran church; I was so weary of singing “campfire” songs in place of hymns during services. I had already “been there, done that” with the idea that such songs stir up personal emotions or satisfy my soul. Although some hymns do bring tears to my eyes or move me to emotion, the feelings come from grand worship of God and not from myself.

One of my favorite hymns is more of a favorite tune, since the original words aren’t scriptural at all, but are more of a story. I first heard the hymn, Jerusalem, in the movie Chariots of Fire. Most of you know that movie is the story of a Scottish missionary to China. I think the movie opens and closes with the popular English hymn, Jerusalem. I still remember the music and the impact it had on me - the huge organ strains and the clear high voices of the children. It furthered my interest in old songs of faith.

When I attended the Urbana Missions conference in 1982, the music director for Billy Graham gave a lecture on the appreciation of old hymns, even those from hundreds of years ago. Considering the direction of the Baptist spin-off churches today and their avoidance of any traditional hymns, this was ironic instruction. He led us through Crown Him with Many Crowns and other old favorites. He had us (us being thousands of students from around the country and world seated in a large stadium) speak the hymn as he explained the deep meaning of each line. He gave us background each hymn writer, so that we could see the author as a fellow Christian who just happened to live during a different period of time. I never sang an old hymn in the same way again. To this day, when I sing a hymn I am confronted with the knowledge that a person who loves God wrote that hymn, maybe even during a time of deep spiritual crisis. Also, the older a hymn, the more time-tested the scriptural validity of the words.

You won’t find the hymn, Jerusalem, in my church’s hymnal, but I did get to enjoy it once again during Ronald Reagan’s funeral last Friday. According to Nationmaster.com, the music was written by Charles H. H. Parry in 1916 and the original lyrics were a poem, “And did those feet in ancient time”, written by William Blake in 1804. The poem was based on a combination of old English folklore that Jesus visited ancient England as a teenager with Joseph of Arimathea, and on the bible verse “The hills were full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.” 2 Kings 6:17. Nationmaster.com says, This is considered to be one of England’s most popular patriotic songs. It is variously associated (thereby holding a somewhat unique position) with English and British nationalism, anti-modernism, post-modernism, socialist ideals, and Christianity. Jerusalem is the official anthem of the British Women’s Institute, and historically was used by the National Union of Suffrage Societies. The poem was inspired by the old legend that Jesus, whilst still a young man, accompanied Joseph of Arimathea to Glastonbury via the nearby Roman port. Blake’s biographers tell us that he believed in this legend.” While I don’t believe that Jesus did visit England, the sentiment is appreciable.

Jerusalem

And did those feet in ancient time
Walk upon England’s mountains green?
And was the holy Lamb of God
On England’s pleasant pastures seen?

And did the Countenance Divine
Shine forth upon our clouded hills?
And was Jerusalem builded here
Among these dark Satanic mills?

Bring me my bow of burning gold!
Bring me my arrows of desire!
Bring me my spear! O clouds unfold!
Bring me my chariot of fire!

I will not cease from mental fight,
Nor shall my sword sleep in my hand
Till we have built Jerusalem
In England’s green and pleasant land.

While researching this hymn, I found a very moving account of a man’s visit to England at the recent turn of the century:

MILLENNIUM
New Year’s Eve, like most late January days in northern England, was cold and overcast. I said that I wasn’t going to get caught up in the Millennium hype but when noon rolled around, there I was in front of the TV set watching the year 2,000 begin on an island in the south Pacific where it was warm and dry.
In our little corner of the world, St. James C of E Church in the village was going to have a Watchnight service at 11:15 and then there was going to be a bonfire in the village. Not exactly the river of fire on the Thames but it seemed a lot more appropriate to end the second Christian millennium than crowded together with a few million people I had never met before.
The service was crowded and started with a hymn I had not sung in years but have always loved. “Oh God, our help in ages past/ Our hope for years to come./ Our shelter from the stormy blast,/ and our eternal home.” It seemed most appropriate.
The Vicar led the service but there was no sermon. Several prayers were read, starting with St. Patrick from the 5th Century and ending with Natalie Webb, a nine year-old from the end of the 20th. Many hymns were sung.
At the end of the service we filed out of the chapel and were given torches for the half-mile long walk to the common where the bonfire would be. The line of torches was irregular but formed a clear path through the Victorian village. There is little doubt that they might have been surprised by the tarmac on the road or the one street light in town, but I’m confident that one of Queen Victoria’s subjects would have quickly understood and joined the procession.
At midnight the bonfire was lit and rather than with a huge commotion, the new millennium came to this corner of Yorkshire with people knotted in small groups, speaking in low voices. While the bonfire burned the groups moved back and forth, between the dark and cold of the night and the light and warmth of the fire. Lights danced on the people, and faces changed from bright celebration to shadowed contemplation. It was hard know if the emotions of the people or the light of the fire caused the changes.
The bonfire burned out and we headed home with two tired girls that we carried inside the house.
In the five months since that night, there have been a few lingering images: the gentleman next to me at church who had obviously indulged in the New Year’s spirits before coming to the service; the mud of the path onto the common; the embracing warmth of the whisky I drank from a flask to toast the new millennium; and those scattered torches moving silently through the village.
There is one thing that has remained very clear. It was more of a feeling than a sight or sound. As the sermon ended we sang one last hymn, Jerusalem, a song many would like to see named the English national anthem. As we sang the words I was suddenly overcome by the enormity of standing on the cusp of the third Christian millennium. Here in England one feels the weight of the centuries all around. Singing that song, a feeling crept into the core of me and I knew that thousands years of history were physically present that night.
This journal entry, written by Vic McInnis, can be found at: http://standrewssociety.tripod.com/vic-052300.htm

Wow, I’m not the only person to be so moved by the music and lyrics of this hymn. Here are the words to the more modern and scriptural version written by Horatio Bonar in 1858. This is the version sung at Ronald Reagan’s funeral last Friday morning -

O love of God, how strong and true,
Eternal and yet ever new;
Uncomprehended and unbought,
Beyond all knowledge and all thought;
O love of God, how deep and great,
Far deeper than man’s deepest hate;
Self-fed, self-kindled like the light,
Changeless, eternal, infinite.

O heavenly love, how precious still,
In days of weariness and ill,
In nights of pain and helplessness,
To heal, to comfort and to bless!
O wide-embracing, wondrous love!
We read you in the sky above,
We read you in the earth below,
In seas that swell and streams that flow.

We read you best in Him who came
To bear for us the cross of shame;
Sent by the Father from on high,
Our life to live, our death to die.
We read Your power to bless and save,
Even in the darkness of the grave;
Still more in resurrection light
We read the fullness of Your might.

O love of God, our shield and stray
Through all the perils of our way!
Eternal love, in you we rest
Forever safe, forever blest.
We will exalt you, God and King,
And we will ever praise your name;
We will extol you every day,
And evermore your praise proclaim.

ymns I love to hear and sing - Jerusalem

Countdown to college or blessing my kids each night

I may be breaking my own little rule about not posting anything too personal, but I do want to share this one thing. Every single day of my life, lately, is a countdown to the day my kids will leave for college. I am sometimes stunned as a realize just how few weeks and months we have left to directly influence their development. Sometimes I panic as I go through my mental checklist of all the things I want for my kids and realize that I might be behind schedule on a couple of items: remember to clean up after themselves or cook a meal, know how to sew on a button, be strong enough to say no to a peer with a really bad idea, etc. Then I remind myself of the areas of personal development that I continued to work on into my 20’s or that I continue to work on today and I, once again, hand my child back to God in trust and faith.

Each night as I’m falling asleep, I suddenly wake up a little to ask myself if I said good night to my son and daughter. (I have a feeling that I will go through severe empty-nest syndrome when they do actually leave.) Each night, I want to be the last person they talk to - to say their blessing, to give them a hug and kiss and to pray with them. Last night was one of those nights. Erik was sleeping at a friend’s house and I wanted to say good night to him. I tried to instant message him on his cell phone (it was too late to make his phone ring, I thought), but he didn’t answer. Oh well!

I got up out of bed to see if Kris had fallen asleep yet. She was awake and I once again had the privilege of stroking her soft cheek and kissing her goodnight. Those of you who know me may already realize that I can make myself cry just by writing that last line. :)

The middle part of my faith journey or why I love liturgy and old hymns.- Part II A of faith journey

I credit my parents in bringing me to church and Sunday school on a regular basis. I was raised with liturgy and hymns. I grew up appreciating the sense of worshipping across the ages with the invisible Christian church and of being reminded each Sunday the basics of our faith in God.

In college, I began attending the InterVarsity Christian Fellowship meetings. We sang songs that reminded me of the ones we used to sing at summer church camp. We also watched movies that were basically designed to scare people into making a decision for Christ so that they wouldn’t go to hell. I attended a local Bible church just outside of town. It was completely independent of any oversight by any governing body, except for the elders of the church. Every service was filled with old Baptist hymns and Bible-based sermons; we were supposed to have our Bibles out and ready with pens and paper during his sermons. This little Bible church was adamantly opposed to a printed service outline or ever having anything resembling a liturgy. The pastor never wanted to be tied down to an order of worship; he wanted to be ready to change topics whenever the spirit moved him. I attended many, many Bible studies at this church.

After about a year and a half, I had seen enough troubling events (pastor refused to take direction from church elders, pastor’s life was not in good order, some church members falling in and out of sin over and over again, no governing authority outside of the church, etc.). I began attended the on-campus Lutheran worship center and was comforted once again by tradition. I loved being part of corporate worship, with emphasis placed on God and not on the individual worshipper. Once I got my own car, I began driving to the sponsoring ELCA church to attend services with a natural body of believers - adults, students, children. I still was mostly unaware of any synodical changes going on from the recent merger, as most young adults would be. I finished my college studies while attending this ELCA church, but I did keep attending the weekly campus InterVaristy meetings. I loved getting together with my Evangelical Christian friends to sing and pray. These same friends did not attend my Lutheran church on Sunday mornings, but remained at the little Bible church. This didn’t bother me at all. I saw myself as melding my traditional lutheran upbringing with the best of the evangelical Christian world. I was too young and too untrained to see any problem with an ecumenical worldview. I would continue this pattern of buffet-style faith and worship until it nearly drained me of my faith twenty years later.

The middle part of my faith journey or why I love liturgy and old hymns.- Part II A of faith journey

Grace alone, faith alone, scripture alone and Christ alone*** - that’s what I like about our church! - Part III of faith journey

One reason I began this weblog was to begin to put into words my thoughts and experiences in the Christian faith. In particular, I’m trying to write my story of going from being raised a mainstream lutheran to becoming an evangelical who eventually returned to her ELCA church (along with many other evangelicals who were given free reign to change the church) and then finally found a home in the Evangelical Lutheran Synod as a confessional lutheran. I’ve already written about being raised mainstream lutheran and becoming an evangelical. Today, with the help of a friend, I was able to put together the third part of my journey: going from the ELCA to the ELS. The middle part of my story covers twenty years, so I’ll need some more time to work on that post.

It has been very difficult to verbalize my feelings towards the changing ELCA. It complicates my task to learn that the changes in the ELCA go beyond me and my life time:back many, many generations over more than a century and a half. The current situation in the ELCA is depressing. In fact, it is beyond depressing to live firsthand in the expansive moral morass. For me, words cannot describe the absolute state of confusion which is glorified there. I personally experienced incorporation of the false teachings of Robert Schuller , use of the Alpha program for confirmation in place of Luther’s small catechism , using Baptist curriculum for Sunday School, abandoning formal confirmation classes because kids and their families complained it was too boring, loss of the liturgy for hand-clapping, emotional performances and meaningless songs, the impending vote next year to ordain and bless practicing homosexuals, etc. I knew for five years that I had to leave, but I kept thinking that I owed it to my home church to stay and try to be a positive influence.

Although it was hard to leave after 30 years of membership at my home church, I did it to protect my own salvation and for the benefit of my children. I now experience much joy at the biblical truths preached and practiced at confessional lutheran congregations, such as King of Grace. I know, after 20 years of searching through churches, that there is no perfect church and never will be on this earth. I was attracted to King of Grace and confessional lutheranism because the Word is faithfully preached and taught. It’s strength is turning people to God’s Word. I have confidence that Scripture will be the final word on changes made in the ELS. It’s grace alone, faith alone, scripture alone and Christ alone - that’s what I like about our church. I feel such freedom in the Evangelical Lutheran Synod and at King of Grace: freedom that comes from the peace of mind knowing that the Word is being clearly taught to me and my family, not on somebody’s whim or interpretation. I know that my husband and I will grow old in this church and see our grandchildren baptized and confirmed at this church.

Since I am an avid fan of the Q&A section of the WELS website (see link below), I am aware of the many divisions in the more conservative Lutheran synods. I don’t pretend to understand them and, in fact, I think that the arguers should realize that there are many newcomers to confessional lutheranism who have very little idea what all the fighting is about between WELS/ELS and LC/MS, etc. Not to belittle the arguments, since they surely stem from legitimate complaints, but God has obviously brought many new people into the church since then. I hope to see more evangelicals turn to confessional lutheranism. I also pray that long-standing members are always so patient with those of us relearning scriptural truths. So far, so good!

***In true lutheran fashion, there are even arguments about whether there are three, four or five solas! I know that there are five original solas, but only three are considered supremely important: Grace, faith and scripture. Gee, that leaves out Christ and God. That doesn’t make sense. I’ll leave that explanation to a more knowledgeable person than me to comment on that.

Three solas: Sola Gratia (grace alone), Sola Fide (faith alone), Sola Scriptura (scripture alone)

Five solas: Sola Fide (faith alone), Sola Gratia (grace alone), Solus Christus (Christ alone), Sola Scriptura (Scripture alone) and Soli Deo Gloria (to God alone be glory).

Grace alone, faith alone, scripture alone and Christ alone*** - that’s what I like about our church! - Part III of faith journey

Advice on teen drinking

My favorite radio station had an interesting discussion this morning about teen beer parties and the Lewiston mom who was recently arrested for contributing to the death of a teen. My kids are 15 and 12 1/2 and I’ve already been surprised by the, shall we say, diversity of parenting styles and family rules of my kids’ peers. My idea of exposing my teens to drinking is for them to occasionally see me and my husband enjoy a beer responsibly in their presence.

One reason I was so interested in this radio discussion was that on the same radio station Dr. Joy Browne, about three months ago, gave shocking advice on teen drinking to a couple. I clearly remember the call and that night. I was driving in the dark of winter about 8:30pm to pick up my daughter from a dance class. I also remember the call very well because I repeated the story over and over the next day, feeling compelled to share the strange advice with others. I even discussed it with my teen daughter, who was also surprised. Even her teen wisdom told her it was bad advice.

Here’s a recap: A mother called in for advice about her 17 year old son who drank too much beer and smoked marijuana often. He was otherwise pleasant and did reasonably well in school, although he was underachieving. Dr. Browne’s advice to her was to make a deal with him. If he would agree to give up smoking marijuana, she and his father would allow him and his friends to have beer parties at their house. His friends would, of course, need parental permission to do this. (Can you imagine your child asking your for that permission slip???) The parents would also limit them to one or two beers each and would be present for the parties. You should have heard this mom’s response! She was nearly speechless. (And I was nearly driving off the road!) The mother said something like, “Well, I never thought about that. I…I don’t think my husband would think that was a good idea.”

I called my sister to have a witness, like I had just seen a UFO or some other strange event. I wanted someone else to hear what I was hearing, just in case I was somehow misunderstanding her. She was able to listen, too, since the call lasted for several minutes. This morning I searched her website for proof, but the archives aren’t up and running yet. I’m sure many of the radio listeners of this station heard the same call I did. Maybe even the mom from Lewiston???